back and watched it happen from afar? I have found myself in this exact position
before — more than once. It’s a bit scary. It’s not so much the fact that your
life seems to be unraveling before your very eyes. It’s not so much that all
your hard work is going to waste. These situations are disappointing because you
yourself were the catalyst that started this descent into darkness.
You become frightened because you find yourself without control, powerless,
not being able to prevent yourself from continuing the fall. That’s what these
events are: a fall from the path you ought to follow. It’s this divergence from
the path you wish yourself to travel that creates your feelings of misery and
Why is it that we find ourselves in such an unfortunate situation? Outside
forces may have very well pushed us to the precipice that we now dangle over,
but contrary to popular belief, these outside forces are not to blame for our
failings. The only things that are out of our control are those that happen
outside us. How we view these events, how we think about them, how we react to
them and how we allow them to affect us is all in our power to control and
What more is a bad day than meaningless events to which we give negative
meaning? What direct effect do unpredictable events have on our psyche? None
whatsoever. It is our interpretation of these events, the way that we allow
ourselves to be affected by them, that causes the unhappiness that we
experience. Events in the physical world are nothing more than happenings that
we can but observe and interpret, give meaning to.
Yet it may upon occasion be exceptionally difficult to distance yourself from
the effect of certain events in your life. I view this fact as being a blessing
rather than a curse. A lack of control over our emotions gives us confirmation
of a world outside of us, a world that continues to breathe whether or not we
continue to do the same. However, these same outside forces can give way to loss
Again, this is not because we are forced to lose control, but rather because
we loosen our grip of our own accord. All it takes is one slip, one moment of
uncertainty, one moment of weakness for us to find ourselves heading down a road
we do not wish to travel. This one occurrence could be nothing more than a
one-time slip, but it could snowball into a huge mess — all because of the
The feedback loop is the reason why so many people fall from grace. It is the
reason behind psychological addiction and the reason why we find ourselves
living the life we are living. It all starts with the outlook that we decide to
have — how we decide we would like to see the world. Some of you may be thinking
to yourselves that the outlook one has on life is not a decision, but rather a
result of the compilation of all that has happened to a person.
But again, as I have mentioned before, no matter what happens outside of us,
it is the way that we interpret such events that causes us to feel the way that
we feel. Your current outlook or perception of the world may seem too natural to
have been concocted from your own thought, but that is exactly from whence it
Over time we have created the lens that we perceive the world through. This
lens tints everything that we see, everything that we do and experience.
Depending on what color you are tinting the world, this truth can be for the
better or for the worse. If you are seeing the world through darkened lenses,
then the world will seem like a dark and desolate place.
If, however, you see the world through brighter, rose-colored lenses then the
world will seem cheery and positive. This is but the first step in the Feedback
Loop. The way we perceive things is in direct correlation to the emotions that
accompany them — no surprise there. What many fail to realize is that these
feelings and emotions that are a result of the way that we view the world work
to add to the coloring of our lens. If we see the world as being bleak and see
through a lens of negativity, then we are bound to experience emotions of
negativity. These emotions then add to the darkening of our lens and ergo darken
our perception of the world even further.
This is where the snowball effect begins to take seed. We had a sh*tty day,
saw the events as holding great negative meaning, decided to let off some steam
and made some poor decisions. Being displeased with ourselves and our inability
to stay strong and true to our goals, we become unhappier. This unhappiness
leads us to seeing the world as being ever so slightly dimmer, which in turn
leads to further unpleasant emotions leading to poor decisions, all leading back
to the worsening of our perception of the world.
Unhappiness only leads to more unhappiness; negativity leads to further
negativity. Fast-forward a couple of years and you find yourself sitting at the
bottom of a 20-foot hole without a latter to escape with. And this is the exact
feeling that many find themselves victim to — this feeling of hopelessness and
misery. Getting out of this hole is no easy task, but as the old saying goes:
when there is a will, there is a way.
There is no ladder to help you out, so you will have to claw your way back to
the top and onto firm, familiar ground. The first step is to change lenses; you
cannot expect to see the good in the world if you continuously look for the bad.
The world is neither good nor bad — it is a combination of both; look for either
and you will find what you seek. You must choose to see the world as positive,
beautiful and purposeful.
This, of course, is not an easy task if you have been looking through
darkened glasses for years, but with enough repetition and the conscious,
constant decision to see the good in things, your outlook on life will change.
Once you begin to see the world under a different light, feed off it. Just as
you snowballed yourself into the ground, you can snowball yourself back up — in
Feed off the good that you begin to see. Dwell in the beauty of the world and
all that is wonderful. Surround yourself by happiness and joy and seeing the
good in that which is around you will become easier with time. Allow the
Feedback Loop to work for you and not against you. Feed your newfound joy back
into the loop and allow it to inflate that happiness to greater size, further
supporting your purpose. In order to change your world — your life — you must
change your perception. See the beauty consciously for long enough and
eventually you won’t need to bother looking, the good and beautiful will find
Source: www.EliteDaily.com Written by: Paul Hudson