expanse of time to live their lives: time to love, time to grow, time to make
decisions and time to get where they want to be.
Meanwhile, minutes slip into months like sand through salty summer fingers
and even the best experiences feel fleeting.
Perhaps this is a tribute to our busy lives, but this year seems to be
zipping by at an expedited rate. Generation-Y is in a perpetual state of
pressure to perform.
While it’s impossible to slow down time, I’ve decided to rant a bit about the
importance of being passionate and recognizing where your time belongs: Become
addicted to passionate people. You will never have the time (or energy) to do
everything and please everybody.
You will not remember how many days you overslept, how many times your car
broke down, the exams for which you could have studied harder and the people who
took the time to gossip or spread negativity.
Life is simultaneously just long enough and much too short; too short to
dwell on minor setbacks, too short to pass up on an opportunity to talk with
someone who interests you, too short to go to bed angry and too short to worry
about each and every insignificant negative in your life.
If you cannot pursue something with passion, let it go; it is not worth your
valuable time. Life allows you just a small window of opportunity to leap aboard
its train of possibility as it roars past the countryside of your existence.
Do not let yourself be the lonely person left at the station nor the person
who got run over trying to race out in front. Enjoy the ride.
Time flies, and yet, there is no reason why you cannot fulfill every single
aspiration you have when you remove the clutter. It doesn’t matter if you’re 14
or 45 or 85; start today. Two simple lessons taught me more about time
management than any day planner ever has:
The importance of value
The bubble that contains “things you can control” is very small. Bad things
will happen to you; life will challenge your sanity and patience. Your attitude
shapes how you will react and recover.
Value each of the perfect things that happen to you each day, no matter how
small. The closest parking spot was open, there was no line for coffee, your
roommate did your dishes or you didn’t get toothpaste all over the sink today
when you brushed your teeth.
Smile about how lucky you are to be able to react to each of these things
each day. Smile about how insignificant your problems are in the grand scheme of
Have perspective. Which events or people will you remember in six months? In
five years? For the rest of your life? Focus on these things and let them make
The cost of making yourself small
This one is huge and can stand for some improvement at every age. Do not
alter, squash or subdue who you are for someone or something else. Forget jobs
that push you to be something you are not and people who encourage you to
enhance qualities you do not have.
Embrace yourself, weirdness and all. The minute you shed your façade is the
minute like-minded weirdos will start showing up at your door.
“Lose the sarcastic, tough guy, assh*le front.”
The toughest love I have ever received was when someone told me to lose my
tough guy, assh*le front, to be real, feel what I feel and show my true
Many of us are excellent at building walls and believe that the deserving
people will find their way around those walls. However, it is more likely that
the deserving people will not waste their very precious time on finding out what
lies behind your wall.
Instead, they will seek out authentic people who are 100 percent honest and
In short, time does not pass; it continues. How you spend it is
unequivocally up to you and it will slip through your fingers before you know
it. Are you living exactly how you want?
The results are not always under your control, but your levels of passion and
intention always are. Show how much you care about the things that are important
to you and develop a work ethic that no one can touch.
Be completely shameless about who you are and what you love to do.
May your time and happiness never run dry.
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