vs a Man“. The post can have the genders swapped and most points
would still apply. However, we can’t deny that there are some fundamental
differences between men and women – from how we are socialized to the chemical
and hormonal differences that naturally occur. Thus, I thought it appropriate to
follow up with a post on the difference between dating a girl, vs a woman.
Again, many points on this post would apply if you switched the genders around.
A boy is attracted to girls. A man is attracted to women. Now, this has
nothing to do with the actual age of a person. I’m referring to maturity, life
vision and stage of life. In fact, some people regardless of their age, will
never really grow up. Also, this isn’t to say that a woman won’t ever have
“girlish” or immature tendencies or vice versa. This post refers to one’s
maturity and most points would also apply if you switch the genders as well.
If you are a boy, then expect that you will attract only girls. However, if
you are a man (independent, knows your worth and value, has a strong moral
compass, is considerate and an able communicator and doesn’t let insecurity
dominate your psyche), then you should be dating a woman. And if you can’t spot
the difference just yet, here are some pointers.
1. A girl throws tantrums. When displeased, upset or angry, she reacts just
as she did as a child when she didn’t get her way with her parents. This often
consists of screaming, pouting, giving the silent treatment, being passive
aggressive and/or punishing. A woman still feels the emotions of being
upset/displeased, but has cultivated the skill of responding versus reacting.
She comes to the table as an adult, and communicates clearly what is bothering
2. A girl perceives herself as a princess and believes people should treat
her like so. She is entitled and feels that she is owed and therefore expects
more than she appreciates. A woman, has standards (what she holds herself to)
not expectations (what she projects on to others).
3. A girl uses her physical beauty as her currency and basis of value. A girl
may be so used to feeling validated through her looks and sexuality, that she
uses this as her primary tool to get what she wants in life. A woman, knows her
worth is beyond her physicality. A woman bases her value on her intelligence,
her strength, her integrity, her values, her contributions, her humanity.
4. A girl banks on a man to be her financial strategy. A woman plans to be
financially independent – she banks on… herself. And if she so happens to enter
a relationship dynamic where it makes sense for her partner to be the primary
breadwinner, it’s considered a bonus, not the expected life line.
5. A girl sees the world from a place of lack and scarcity. She competes and
will even tear down another in order to secure resources or a mate. A woman
helps other women. She knows that there’s plenty enough to go around and takes
the high road of integrity to get what she wants.
6. A girl cannot be bothered with anything domestic and is proud of the fact
that she cannot cook or clean. A woman understands that being domestic is not a
duty, but understands that it is one way of taking care of herself and others.
She also understands that in the event she wants to create a family, having a
person in the household who can contribute domestically is important.
7. “A girl wants attention, a woman wants respect. A girl wants to be adored
by many. A woman wants to be adored by one.” -anonymous
8. A girl does not respect her body. She has not yet understood that her
body and heart are sacred, and that it’s important to be mindful of how she
treats it and who she shares it with. “A girl cherishes handbags, diamonds and
her shoe collection as her prize possessions. A woman cherishes her health, her
sense of self, and her talents as her greatest assets.” – N. Mah
9. A woman takes the time to reflect on the type of human she wants to be,
the example she wants to leave and the vision for her life. She has put thought
into her values and what she stands for. A girl has not established her moral
compass or values and consequently, is often inconsistent. “After spending time
with a girl, you feel exhausted because she takes more than she gives. After
spending time with a woman, you feel invigorated, because she empowers you with
possibility, and a passion for life.” – N. Mah
10. A girl has a checklist that prioritizes superficial qualities above
anything else. Here is an example of how this checklist may look: Hot, popular,
wears skinny jeans, over 6 feet tall, rich.. This is the checklist of what a
woman may look for: High integrity, intelligent, kind, good communicator,
Now, a lot of these differences require taking the time to know someone to
figure out if the apple of your eye is indeed a mature woman, or someone with an
immature mindset. However, one of the quickest filters that you can notice from
the beginning is this:
11. A girl plays games. A woman doesn’t.
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