a rush of negativity comes up and slaps you in the face. Where did it come from?
It might have been your boss, employee, colleague, spouse, parent or sibling.
Regardless of the source, you need to get the wind back in your sails and overcome their
objections. In fact, you might even use these negative Nellies to
Not all naysayers are against you. They are not even necessarily saying no.
Those who really care for you are mostly looking to protect you from their own
perception of risk. Here are 5 ways to overcome their naysaying and hopefully
engage them to help in your endeavor.
1. Redirect Them
Some naysayers offer unsolicited opinions about your activities, which can be
incredibly annoying and distracting. Perhaps they are bored with their own lives
and don't realize they are engaging in yours without an invitation. In this
case, politely point out that you are not looking for their input and suggest
they spend their time focused on improving their own situation. Of course, if
you asked their opinion, you should at least honor the fact they skipped being
quietly polite and spoke honestly.
2. Give Them Credence
Just because naysayers raise objections regularly doesn't mean their
objections are invalid. Give them credit for helping you identify potential flaws
and risk factors in your plans. Thank them for caring enough to share their
opinions. Tell them you will take their thoughts under consideration and report
back to them on your experience. You could argue with them, but why waste energy
you could apply
in productive ways?
3. Answer Their Objections
Naysayers who spout
negativity with no basis are the most annoying of all. If they
are speaking beyond their own knowledge, they deserve to be challenged. So do
your homework. Make a point of showing them facts (not opinions) that strongly
support your approach. Calmly and methodically make your case. The more you
demonstrate objectively that they are in error, the sooner they will back off
out of embarrassment. Then they will be less likely to jump in with their
unsupported opinions the next time. Make sure your facts are accurate, however,
or you open yourself up to ridicule and dismissal.
4. Recruit Them
Perhaps you are a bit optimistic in your new endeavor. Maybe you have a habit
of seeing only the bright side, missing important obstacles that may scuttle
your plans. Who better than a naysayer to clear the path for your
smooth sailing? Tell your naysayer you appreciate that he or she cared enough to
identify upcoming challenges. Be smart. Ask if he or
she will join you on this journey and help solve problems before they disrupt
the process. In the worst case, your naysayer will back off and, in the best
case, you'll have the help of a valuable ally.
5. Eliminate Them
If these people are constantly bringing you down, by all means stop hanging
out with them. Find a new job if you must, or quit going to family gatherings.
No one should have to suffer through the misery of other people inflicting
negativity for its own sake. Say no to a mediocre
existence. Take control of your environment and spend your time where people are
supportive and encouraging. I, for one, will raise no objections.